This week’s post will both help you to buy clothes that enhance your Confident Personal Style and, in the meantime, improve how others view you.
Over the years we’ve noticed that posture is a very strong indicator of confidence. When new clients come in for a consultation we ask them to look at themselves (still in their clothes) in a mirror. Even very successful women tend to hunch over a bit – we pretty much always have to ask them to stand up straight.
When we put them in the right clothes for them, they automatically stand up straight without being asked. Their body hasn’t changed; their looks haven’t changed; their personality hasn’t changed; but the feeling of looking the best they can has changed the way they feel about themselves and that manifests itself physically for all, including themselves, to see.
It’s one of the most exciting moments in my job when this natural blossoming starts to happen.
Part of it is the relaxed, friendly and safe environment we try to provide, but more than that is because all of us, when we worry about how we look, naturally want to hide. When we know we look good we can’t help but communicate it.
So here’s how to use your posture to your advantage by noticing how you hold yourself. First, when you’re buying clothes notice how you hold yourself when you look in the mirror. When a stylist or salesperson persuades you to try something on be aware of how your body reacts. If you naturally open up and stand tall, then you’re probably getting good advice. But if you feel the urge to curl up, then you might want to try something – or somewhere – else.
Second, right now, without buying another piece of clothing you can make an improved impression by actively managing your posture. There has been lots written about this and about how to do it – just type ‘posture for confidence’ into Google and you’ll plenty of good advice from people who are more expert than me in this area.
However, I believe this is only a short term solution. Deep down you know you’re actively managing your posture and that, in itself saps energy and confidence, so you have to work harder to convince others.
The great thing about developing your Confident Personal Style and feeling your confident best is that you won’t need to actively manage your posture – or even to think about it.
It’s so much better to exude confidence than to have to fake it.